A couple of weeks ago I went to hear the Dalai Lama speak at the (relatively) intimate setting of London’s Lyceum Theatre. The event, hosted by Action for Happiness, saw his Holiness take to the stage for a two hour Q&A followed by other influential speakers and a panel discussion.
Science is Universal
In a previous post, I spoke about the importance of searching for health rather than happiness. As someone who was brought up agnostic, I believe we all examine our stance on spirituality at some stage in our lives. There are so many external factors in life that are out of our control. What we can control is what we allow inside; both physically and spiritually.
Mental health issues affect nearly every person in Britain and there has been a noticeable shift seeing discussions around physical health expand to that of mental hygiene. More and more people are not only showing an interest but trying to implement a better system of care for themselves and others.
Neuroscience has shown us that our brains are not rigid, they change. This plasticity is proof that we should take more responsibility for the shape they take by engaging in mental hygiene. Neuroscientist Richie Davidson gave a helpful breakdown (!) of what constitutes mental hygiene:
- Resilience – How quickly we can recover from adversity
- Outlook – Savouring positive emotions
- Attention – A wandering mind is an unhappy mind
- Generosity – Being kind to others
You learn swimming by swimming
As with any workout, it is unrealistic to expect big changes in a short period of time. We should instead be thinking about the mid and long term benefits. There is no task that cannot be broken into lots of smaller tasks and we should act now, even if we do not see the (immediate) fruits of our efforts.
Creating habits make it much easier to make changes and there are numerous great mindfulness techniques out there. Though it may sound overly sentimental, a point that really stuck with me from the day is that it’s not about becoming something we’re not, it’s about remembering what we truly are.
Know thyself, love thyself
From a young age I have taken an interest in examining my own mind and the often unhelpful patterns it creates. I have reached a stage in life where I feel that I know myself. I see myself for who I am and am beginning to understand my place in the world.
“The difference between strong silence and weak silence is whether it is imposed or not”
The ultimate goal, following Buddhist principle, is to reach a state of compassion and I believe that there are three key levels in life that we need to reach in order to become a compassionate person. It begins with self awareness; an ability to take stock and be present in the moment.
The Dalai Lama stated that altruistic love is the best thing you can do for yourself and for others and this sits within this first pillar for me. It was stated: “Love is the will for the other to be happy”, I firmly believe that and know that I need to love myself in order to be able to love and receive love from others.
Take a more holistic view
As social beings, it is important that we find our place within the world, accepting our tiny part within a much wider ecosystem. This is not to say that you are a trivial cog but rather that one should balance their consumption with their contribution. Even selfishly, helping others can help one’s own mental health. You can be mindful without being caring but you cannot be caring without being mindful.
Asked by Richard Layard how he was able to keep so cheerful despite the many difficulties he experiences in life, his Holiness replied, “Look more holistically and you’ll see that the bad thing also offers an opportunity.”
Global responsibility & compassion
This thought carries through to the fact that our individual problems feel very small when compared to the global responsibility we have. Our future is that of the whole of humanity, the mentality that says “destroy your enemy”, “we vs them” etc. creates a gap that is not reflective of the reality of modern society.
I was reading an article about Japanese children, as young as 5, travelling alone on the Tokyo metro, the societal reasons for this are symptomatic of a compassionate culture.
I have long been inspired by the Mayan greeting, which translates to:
“I am another you”
“You are another me”
This iteration of the Golden Rule shows the affection that comes through empathy (and affection is something that every human needs). However, the key difference between empathy and compassion is sustained care. Striving to be a more consistently compassionate person in turn improves our mental hygiene.